Misconceptions by Heart

11/04/2011 10:33 AM

Before anything else, this article contains my extremities about almost everyone's favorite topic. So, be careful when you rant back on me because this is what you get from yelling words out of your personal experiences—or just a plain observation as well.

Okay, recently, I noticed several reactions about love, especially at the advent where social networking sites serve as the new avenue for dating. It varies. Some were somewhat decent, while more than half are sad to say indecent.

Every single moment of their relationship was barely documented, especially the ladies. From all aspects—be it a moment of joy or sorrowfulness. There is nothing wrong with it, but if you're doing it for some purpose, you must be looking for trouble.

On text messaging, it was all love quotes. Again, not a big deal. But the logical problem became evident: when things go wrong with love, they will insist it is "right."

Now, what the heck am I talking about this time?

See the papers and your television screens? On several newscasts, there are police reports where the motive or subject involved is love (jealousy, to be exact).

Recently, a security guard kidnapped his child because he couldn't take the fact that her partner didn't want to be with him anymore. Another: A graduating student was gunned down by her boyfriend at the height of their "love quarrel."

At some point, I was asking myself: have these culprits gone crazy? And yet they have the nerve to put out a reason like "they just love her so much?"

JESUS CHRIST, HOW DOES SUCH A GRAVE WRONGDOING TURN OUT TO BE RIGHT? HOLY FUCK! SORRY GUYS, BUT IF YOU ASKED ME, THAT'S NOT HOW LOVE SHOULD BE IN THE FIRST PLACE.

"Love is not about owning someone," as the old saying goes (Thanks, Papa Jack for retelling). Yes!

Unfortunately, people tend to be possessive when they are engaged in a romantic relationship. When a guy scored her winning "Yes," you'll see him the next time around with his arms wrapping her. Yes, as if he's the only guy who can be with her at all times. Not anyone else, and that even includes her relatives.

And in case somebody from the latter approaches her, the guy will react violently—with some will come to the extent of invading her phone and online accounts (and obviously, read everything).

HEY, BASTARD. YOU'RE NOT EVEN HIS WIFE, SO STOP ACTING LIKE YOU'RE HER HUSBAND ALREADY! ACTING LIKE A MATURED MAN, EH? THERE ARE BETTER WAYS TO BE ONE, MISTER.

In gentle terms, you love her for what she is, so you have to accept it.

And that also goes to the ladies. There are ways and means to show how much you care for your partners. You don't even need to read a book about that. It comes naturally.

The only problem is that when we get beyond, we're not conscious of the fact that we are holding his neck; He's already suffocating. And in case they need "space," they will insist not to. Instead, they will resort to a break-up.

HOW STUPID.

Everything doesn't need to be blow-by-blow documentation. I agree with love gurus who said it's better to keep some things private (and I am saluting my college friend for doing such).

I have to admit, five years ago, when I was courting a girl, I kept all possible things in private. And the only thing that you can never hide is the extreme emotion that comes within you.

Well, I'm saluting everyone who can do so (good job!). At least when it all falls, you'll still be on your comfortable self.

So, boys, it's not a bad thing to cry after a heartbreak.

Though on the contrary, I also got ditched. A girl I liked back then wanted to get back to her ex-boyfriend, and obviously, it hurt me. But let her go—especially if she allowed him wants to make it up with her. Let's face it: even if I get drunk, it won't solve my misery.

Perhaps my mistake, though I did not share whatever I was feeling with anyone else. Maybe because of the fear of the reactions. Mind you: I was seen by my mother teary-eyed the next day.

IT REALLY FEELS LIKE SHIT, BUT I NEVER LET THAT RUIN ME AS A WHOLE. I still managed to get back in time.

Now, what's my point? LET TIME HEAL YOUR WOUNDS, BUT NEVER LET OTHERS BE YOUR REBOUND. Everyone knows how it sucks to be one because everyone wants to score the winning point.

So, if you're down deep and broken, your family and friends are the only people you can go to, and indeed NOT ANYONE ELSE WHOM MIGHT FALL IN LOVE INTO YOU in the wrong process.

My take here is simple. YOU MAY THINK OF HUMAN NATURE AS YOU'RE EXCUSES FOR ANY STUPIDITY YOU HAD DONE OUT OF LOVE, BUT NEVER FOR MORE THAN ONCE (AND CERTAINLY NOT ON THE VERY GRAVE ASPECT).

AND NEVER USE LOVE FOR SUCH. YOU'RE DISGRACING ITS GOOD NAME.

I PERSONALLY HAVE A HIGH RESPECT FOR COUPLES WHO HAVE BEEN DECENT WHEN IT COMES TO THE L-WORD.

And for the people who still can't understand, I AM NOT AGAINST LOVE AS A WHOLE. I AM UP AGAINST THE MISCONCEPTIONS MOST OF YOU HAVE MADE. A MISTAKE CAN'T BE CORRECTED BY ANOTHER ONE AND CERTAINLY CAN'T TURN THEM INTO A RIGHT ONE NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU'RE ARGUING INTO.

Call me full of pride, but I am implying that admit it when you commit a mistake. Don't let it result in a tireless but senseless argument. It's not about one who can have the balls to swallow their pride but helping one grow. Unfortunately, it always goes the other way around. Perhaps it's because no one wants to hear an argument (and actually, no one wins the game).

By the way, I'm still open to changes; but definitely, with its limits against the possibilities of extremism. So don't get me wrong at all.

Lastly, love is supposed to make you a mature human being, so stop acting like a baby to someone else and GROW THE FUCK UP!

Author: slickmaster | © 2011 The SlickMaster's Files